School crush; just friends.

So I really like this boy at school but he told me he wants to be just friends. Then I find out he likes my best friend. For some reason I can't get over him. What do I do? It’s so hard seeing him at school, too. 

Dear Anonymous,
          The best way to get over someone is to find something to occupy your time and mind. Feelings are always tricky because your heart has a mind of its own. You never know who you’ll fall for. This doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you or that you made a mistake. It’s natural for people to like others and they don’t like them back, it’s just a cycle in the relationships of life. Fortunately in this case, he wants to be friends! This is the time to value the friendship between you two, but don’t push it. Don’t suffocate him because you want to spend time with him, and don’t take the friendship for granted. Be his friend like he wants and enjoy your time together. Over time you’ll realize that you would rather have him in your life as a friend than nothing at all, and who knows, maybe he’ll realize that he made a mistake by not taking the opportunity with you when he had the chance. As for him liking your best friend, this is the time for you and your friend to have a talk about it. Can you handle them dating? Will she be able to not date him because of the way you feel about him? Tell your friend your true feelings about the boy. Don’t lie to her, because that could make the situation on your part even harder to handle. If it hurts to see him at school, take a different route to your classes or get something to occupy your time; like a new hobby. Maybe pick up painting; even make a journal with your feelings and keep it to yourself. You’ll always feel better after writing your feelings down. Another way to occupy your time is to start talking to the cute boy in your English class, but don’t forget about the boy you like and ignore him completely. Respect his decision that he wants to be friends. This could be his way of shutting away his real feelings for you, or maybe he just sees you two just being good longtime friends, and there is nothing wrong with that. 

Comments

  1. I feel that he has started to get a little rude towards me though...

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    1. If you are good enough friends with him, talk to him about it.

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  2. The problem is, he thinks Im over him. But in reality I'm still crushing hard!

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    1. Find a hobby. Do something to get your mind off of him.

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