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Dear Alexis, Do you think it's OK to cheat on somebody when they are in an unhappy relationship? -Curious Dear Curious, I do not by any means think it's OK to cheat on someone regardless of their relationship status. When you're unhappy in a relationship, you're suppose to talk to the person and not cheat on them. When you cheat in a relationship then try to break up with your partner, the situation becomes worse. Unhappy relationships may seem like the perfect time to cheat, but in reality it's the worse time because you're making a bad situation even worse. Instead of taking the easy way out by ending the relationship you should try to work out the parts that make it unhappy. Not all relationships are meant to workout, but that is not a reason to cheat. 

Dear Alexis, What's the best way to get out of being upset? -Anonymous Dear anonymous, The best way to get out of being upset is to find out what's making you upset, point it out, and tackle it. No situation is going to get better if you don't face it head on. When you're upset, you should find hobbies that make you happy and do those activities continuously. Now, being upset is no reason to go and do something crazy; just relax and do the things you enjoy the most. I hope that you find what makes you upset and you tackle it head on. I know you can do it. Good luck!    

Dear Alexis,             This girl likes my boyfriend, she's made that obvious. She knows he has a girlfriend and continues to flirt with him. He said they're just friends but it's evident she wants more out of it. He's a really nice guy and can't be mean to her. Should I speak my mind to her? I realize my boyfriend is absolutely adorable but that doesn't mean she can have him. He's mine. How can he tell her nicely to back off? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,             Being in a relationship you are faced with many obstacles, one of which would be other people flirting with your significant other. This is a problem many people have and I'm very glad you asked this question. The major red flag that went up for me is the part where you say that he, himself, has told you they are just friends but then later in the question you ask if you talk to her yourself; the answer i...

Dear Alexis,             I really like this guy, but I'm not exactly sure how he feels about me. We went to Sadie’s together and he recently asked me to prom, but I don't know if he sees me as just a friend or if he sees more than that. He's the first guy I've like since my last break up (which wasn't very pretty) and I'm afraid of getting hurt. Please help? Sincerely, Terrified Dear Terrified,             I always say that you'll never know unless you ask but sometimes that isn't always so easy. Unfortunately, getting hurt is part of growing and you'll get hurt throughout your lifetime, but it’s the risks and the good memories that make the broken hearts and tears all worthwhile. If you like him, tell him. If you're scared, tell him that you value your friendship and you're scared of liking him because of your last break up, or whatever your feelings may be. If you'...

Dear Alexis,             As a boy what's the best way to find a girl to truly love and make them love you? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,             My best advice I can give you is to not look for love, but let love come to you. The best kind of love is the unexpected love. You'll find your love in time; don't rush it. You can very well make someone love you only by being your true self. Don't stress over finding love and making someone love you; just live your life day by day and I promise you that one day you'll find the girl you've been waiting your whole life for. And That is the best way to find love. 

Dear Alexis,             So it is nearing the end of senior year, right? I have a girl that I'm interested in and I don't know if even trying to start the fire of a relationship would be worth it by this point. Do you think I should give it a go or just let it be and move on? Sincerely, Greased lighting Dear Greased Lighting,             If you're interested in this girl, go for it! I'm all for taking chances. You'd rather try and fail then let it pass and spend your whole life wondering what if, right? It seems to me that if you didn't want to try, you wouldn't have spent the time to ask this question. It's obvious that you care and want to try so, what's holding you back? If anything the summer would be a great time to find the chemistry. Who knows, this could be THE relationship. Take the risk, I know you want to. Good luck!