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Dear Alexis,           I really like this boy and he likes me a lot too but he is moving far away for college. He has a few months before he moves but doesn't want to see me because of the heartbreak that follows. How do I convince him to stay? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,           First thing; you can’t make anyone stay if they don’t want to. Second; if you really like this boy, you’ll support him and his bravery for moving away for college. It’s understandable as to why he  doesn't  want to see you because of the heartbreak, but you could pitch the idea about a long distance relationship. I think you should talk to him and tell him that you two should remain friends for the time he’s away; there’s no reason why you two  couldn't  be friends. Stay strong but don’t get wrapped up in a situation that might not be changeable. Good luck! 

Dear Alexis,           My ex-boyfriend and I recently broke up. We dated for a year. He also lives in Canada while I live in the U.S. he is probably one of my closest friends and we still talk and are very close. But yet I get told by lots of people to just move on from him because he is an ex and you shouldn't even be friends with and ex because you might fall in love with him again. I still think him and I should be friends and if we do fall in love I think we should just keep it going. What do you think I should do? Leave him or keep the friendship? -Briana Dear Briana,           Exes will always be a big part of your life even if you two don’t talk. Personally, I think that being friends with an ex is a huge accomplishment. There’s a reason why you two connected, so why not continue that connection? Now, the question you need to ask yourself is if you want to continue being friends ...

Dear Alexis,                 My best friend since second grade recently lied to me about something small but still meaningful. I don’t know if I should continue trusting her or stop being friends with her. -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,                 Trusting one another is a key point in any relationship especially with friendships. You two have been good friends since the second grade and this is the first time she has lied to you; that isn’t good but it’s not necessarily bad either. Sometimes best friends tell little lies to protect their good friends. She should not have lied to you in the first place but since she did, you need to go about it in a mature manner. Talk to her about the lie and why she did it. I don’t think you should stop being friends with her, but I do think you should confront her about it and demand an ans...

  Dear Alexis,               I really like this boy. We went to prom together but haven’t talked much about being together. Do you think that we might already be together but I just don’t know or should I ask him to be my boyfriend? Help! -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,                 The first thing that caught my attention is when you asked if you two were already together but you weren't quite sure; if you’re dating a person it will be pretty clear. The best way to gain a healthy relationship is going out on a few dates and getting to know one another. Going to prom together was a huge step because that alone means you have a lot of fun with each other. I wouldn’t quite jump into boyfriend and girlfriend status yet because there are tons of things you two have yet to learn about each other. Have fun with him and don’t rush things. If you two are mea...

Dear Alexis,                 Everyone at my school looks at me in a nasty way and whispers about me all the time. Did I do something to make this happen? How do I get them to stop? -Confused Dear Confused,                 High schools, even middle schools, have a huge problem with kids being rude. When people whisper or give dirty looks, they are truly only doing it to get a reaction out of someone else. If you're giving them the attention they want, they'll continue to whisper. Now, what makes you think that what they are whispering about is negative? Everyone has a jealous side, so if a girl likes your shoes she's going to whisper to her friend how much she likes your shoes then give you a dirty look for having those shoes. If you give them the reaction they want, they'll keep doing it. Ignore the whispers and dirty looks. Th...

Dear Alexis,                 I said yes when I was asked to prom by a guy I really don't want to go with, but I'm  scared if I tell him it'll make things awkward and ruin our friendship. I know we could go as  friends but I'd rather not. He's just not the type of person who I could see myself having a good  time with at something like prom. Please help. -Torn Dear Torn,                 Turning him down now could possibly ruin your friendship for a short period of time. The way I see it, you've already committed yourself to going to prom with him. There has to be a reason why you said yes in the first place. Stop being negative about the situation and make prom fun with him. The date will go sour if your attitude is sour. My advice to you is to go to prom with him, have fun, and forget about the 'What ifs.' Somet...

Dear Alexis,                 How do you feel about dating someone you met online for years, but never meeting? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,             Let me share a story that is very personal to me. Four years ago I met a boy online, MySpace actually. We talked for hours on end; calling, texting, sending pictures, etc. A little after a month of talking, he had me convinced that we were destined to be together- so of course we started our relationship. The months quickly turned into years and we still never came face to face; but I convinced myself that there was more to him and me than just a cute face. We were “dating” on and off throughout those years. We went through all the roller-coasters that any normal couple would go through. We talked when times got rough and fell hard for each other; still never meeting face to face. I told him everythin...