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Dear Alexis,                 I like this boy who is younger than me but I don’t know if we could date because of this age. What do I do? -Amy Dear Amy,                Several of my recent questions have been about dating and if the age has any effect on the relationship; my answer to all of these questions have been that age should not matter if the connection is there. Now, if the person is so young or old that you’ll get in legal trouble, then I advise for you to reevaluate the relationship. If the connection is a solid connection, then he being younger than you shouldn’t be a big problem. How much younger is he exactly? Is it illegal for you two to even be dating? Unfortunately with younger dating, you’ll always be faced with the illegal issue. The best thing you can do is to think about if the age is too young to where it would be a problem and if it would be,...

Dear Alexis,                 How old are you to be giving advice? Didn’t you just get your driver’s license? Just curious. -Pamela Dear Pamela,                 I think that your question is a question many people might have. If you have read any columns from Ask Alexis, you’ll see that the target audience seems to be for teenagers only but if you read on and look around you at the different aged couples, you’ll see that my advice can be given to anyone of any age. I don’t believe that my age has anything to do with my advice except that I can give a fresh perspective on the dating world of anyone of any age. Is all my advice accurate and can be proven to work out exactly how it’s planned? No. I encourage you and anyone else who is stumped by their curiosity to take my advice with an open mind and email me with their questions-j...

Dear Alexis,  My boyfriend seems to like blonde haired girls more than me. Should I change my hair to blonde? -Help Dear Help,  One thing I will always stick to is that you should never change yourself to please someone else. If you go through a change, you want it to be for you and no one else. Everyone has their turn-ons and turn-offs, and his may be a blonde haired woman. That doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t like your hair color. Your boyfriend is with you for a reason and that reason should be overrule the fact that a blonde haired woman catches his eye every now and then. You definitely shouldn’t change your hair color or anything about you if YOU won’t be satisfied by the change. I wouldn’t let his turn-on affect you unless it is becoming a problem in your relationship. Sit him down and talk to him about it. Communication in this type of situation is always key.  

Dear Alexis,             I broke up with my girlfriend of three years a while ago. When will my love for her go away? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,             Love is a powerful feeling and a great one at that. When you love someone full heartedly and truly love them, that love sticks around forever. You can try and push the love away and make yourself hate her, but that would just give you more pain. It is very possible to love more than one person and to be happy. Now, should you date both of those people at the same time; no but you should always keep one in your heart. I always ask myself, would it be better to love and to have lost or to hate and have lost? Either way, you’re going to be upset and you’re going to feel some type of emotion for your ex-girlfriend. The best advice I can give you is to not worry about when your love will “go away.” Would you want all ...