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Dear Alexis, I really like this boy and I want to ask him on a date. What would be a good first date for a guy? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,           First off, I like that you want to take a boy on a date instead of him taking you out. Switching it up is always good!           A really basic first date would be going to the movies, personally, I don’t think that is a good first date unless you don’t want to talk to him at all! A first date should be all about getting to know each other. If he is the active type, take him to a put-put course and play! If he is more artsy type, you could find an inexpensive painting class and paint with each other. If the weather is nice, you could go to the park and play around like little kids and have a nice picnic. First dates should be fun and enlightening; don’t plan too many things that have you running around everywhere. Make sure you have plent...

Dear Alexis, This girl at my school gets bullied all the time and most people say she deserves it but I don’t think so. How do I get them to stop or just help her? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,         Bullying is a huge problem lately. What is a bully, anyway? A bully is someone who, most of the time, has self-esteem issues or problems of their own at home. A bully can seem very scary but usually they are the most sensitive people. A bully will tease someone else to get their mind off of an issue of their own. Bullies can be dangerous, so I advise you to be very cautious when dealing with a bully.         I applaud you for wanting to help her out; it shows character. Unfortunately, you can’t change someone’s mind in a matter of seconds, so getting people to stop bullying her won’t be easy. You can talk to your friends about helping you stop people from bullying her and see if they’d be willing to help you ...

Dear Alexis,             My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a while now mainly because he lives almost two hours away. I love him with all of my heart and don't want to end our relationship but I don't like not seeing him every day. I can't imagine my life without him and it hurts being so far apart and sometimes it feels like we aren't even dating anymore. I know he'd never cheat on me so that's not what I'm worried about but I think his feelings for me are fading and my feelings for him aren't as strong as they used to be. Do I stay with him and keep feeling alone? Or do I break up with him because I want to be with someone closer? -Distance Dear Distance,             Long distance relationships seemed to be at their peak last year and I'm sure it will carry on into this year. Many people don't do well in long distance relationships because of the t...

Dear Alexis,           My name is Cassia. These past two weeks have been finals week and I’m stressing out. I don’t seem to have enough time to do anything! I can’t hang out with my friends because every single one of my classes assigns work every night. Do you have any tips for working with finals? I really need it. -Cassia. Dear Cassia,           The week(s) of finals are always the most stressful. Instead of worrying about having time to hang out with your friends, you should be thinking about studying for your finals. The best advice I can give you is to just study; don’t put it off until the last minute. Studying isn’t fun and going to the mall with your friends seems like the better choice but studying and getting good grades on your finals will help you in your future-when you are thrown into the “real world.” Although you shouldn’t spend tons of time with your friends just to ...

Dear Alexis, What is love and why can’t I find it? -anonymous Dear Anonymous,           Love is like swimming for the first time. Thoughts are floating around in your head making you terrified to go any further in the water, but at the same time you’re excited to go swimming out deeper; seeing what the water has in store for you.  Love is having the ability to trust someone with your life, love is seeing the outside world in a new perspective, and love is giving someone the power to break you down but trusting them enough to know they won’t. Love is risky and love is challenging, but being in love and feeling love is one of the best feelings in the world. You can’t go searching for love because you’ll end up getting false answers. Love is meant to be slow and is meant to be patient. Should you sit at home all the time and wait for love to come knocking on your door; of course not. You have to try with relationships, but sea...

Dear Alexis,           How did you deal with your anxiety and depression last year, and with missing all the choir concerts and school work? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous,           It wasn't easy at all. Every day I felt worse about myself and put myself down because 1) I wasn't who I used to be and 2) I was letting everyone down. Including; myself, my family, and my school. What helped me the most was getting medication for depression because I later found out that I was actually depressed. I also had to get a medicine to calm my nerves just to get through school. Counseling is great, too. Going to counseling, I felt so silly like I was too good to go to counseling but after every session, I felt ten times better. When you reach a spot like I was in, you have no other choice than to get help. Don't EVER be afraid to ask for help. As for missing school, I discussed it with my counselor whe...