Do I end my long distance relationship?


Dear Alexis,
            My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a while now mainly because he lives almost two hours away. I love him with all of my heart and don't want to end our relationship but I don't like not seeing him every day. I can't imagine my life without him and it hurts being so far apart and sometimes it feels like we aren't even dating anymore. I know he'd never cheat on me so that's not what I'm worried about but I think his feelings for me are fading and my feelings for him aren't as strong as they used to be. Do I stay with him and keep feeling alone? Or do I break up with him because I want to be with someone closer?
-Distance

Dear Distance,
            Long distance relationships seemed to be at their peak last year and I'm sure it will carry on into this year. Many people don't do well in long distance relationships because of the time they spend apart from each other. In your case- that seems to be the issue. This is the time in which you have to look deep into your heart and discover your true feelings for this boy. Is he worth the distance? Does your love for him overpower the feelings you have over the distance between you two? If he means the world to you and you truly feel as if the only things making you feel this way is the distance, I would encourage you to stay with him and work through the distance. You mention that you feel alone when you aren't with him- which is completely understandable. Do you go out and try to be with friends instead of being alone at home? With the technology we have at our fingertips, you can almost feel as if he's with you every day. My advice to you is not to leave the boy you love just because there is a little distance between you two. The best thing to do would be to schedule Skype calls every other night, phone calls at set times, and plan weekends to go see each other. Although transportation isn't cheap or easy to get your hands on, it would do wonders for your relationship if you planned, in advance, a time to see each other. In long distance relationships the main thing couples look forward to is seeing each other because the time frame from the last time they saw each other to the next time they see each other helps build more love and more excitement to be together. If you two can make it through the distance, you two can make it through almost anything. Follow your heart; love will take over and you'll make the right decision. I have faith in you!

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