Online Dating

Dear Alexis,
                How do you feel about dating someone you met online for years, but never meeting?
-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,
            Let me share a story that is very personal to me. Four years ago I met a boy online, MySpace actually. We talked for hours on end; calling, texting, sending pictures, etc. A little after a month of talking, he had me convinced that we were destined to be together- so of course we started our relationship. The months quickly turned into years and we still never came face to face; but I convinced myself that there was more to him and me than just a cute face. We were “dating” on and off throughout those years. We went through all the roller-coasters that any normal couple would go through. We talked when times got rough and fell hard for each other; still never meeting face to face. I told him everything about myself and my family making him a huge part in my life. We planned our wedding, our house layout, and he even told me the day that he would propose to me. All seemed like a fairytale-soon enough I found out it was too good to be true. This past thanksgiving I had multiple text messages telling me that this boy was a fake; I wouldn’t put myself to believe that he wasn’t real. The girls who messaged me had known the same guy and within a few phone calls, we discussed this guy and the stories he told. He planned weddings, house layouts, and even told them when he was going to propose to them!  The pictures, stories, names of friends, and everything he had said to us all matched to another person, but the interesting part was that this other person was a girl. Who was the boy in the pictures? Who did I talk to on the phone? Why would someone pretend to be someone else for four years? To this day I have unanswered questions. I missed out on life. I missed out on going to Sadie’s, dates with other boys, spending time with friends, even being with my family because I was so caught up in talking and texting a boy I never met. Moral of the story is that online dating is dangerous and never one hundred percent guaranteed. Do I think that all online dating is awful? No, but I believe that precaution should be taken when you’re faced with online dating. In your situation, I would stop where you are until you meet the guy. Also, never go and meet someone you have met online when you’re alone. Be careful and don’t let yourself miss out on opportunities because you’re caught up with an imaginary person.

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