Leave him or keep the friendship?


Dear Alexis,
          My ex-boyfriend and I recently broke up. We dated for a year. He also lives in Canada while I live in the U.S. he is probably one of my closest friends and we still talk and are very close. But yet I get told by lots of people to just move on from him because he is an ex and you shouldn't even be friends with and ex because you might fall in love with him again. I still think him and I should be friends and if we do fall in love I think we should just keep it going. What do you think I should do? Leave him or keep the friendship?
-Briana

Dear Briana,
          Exes will always be a big part of your life even if you two don’t talk. Personally, I think that being friends with an ex is a huge accomplishment. There’s a reason why you two connected, so why not continue that connection? Now, the question you need to ask yourself is if you want to continue being friends with him because you want to fall back in love with him. I call that the “safe zone” because everything you know about love lays in your ex-boyfriend, so your heart isn’t scared to go back to the same things over and over again. It would be great if you two could become close friends and stay that way but since you two recently broke up, I think you’d end up trying out your relationship again and falling back into your “safe zone.” I encourage you to venture out into the unknown world of love instead of falling back into the same routine. Move forward with your love life while keeping him as a friend. If your adventure of love leads you back to your ex, then you should reconsider being in a relationship with him again. Do what you feel will make you happy; you’re in control.   

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