Do I keep moving forward?


Dear Alexis,
There’s this boy who goes to my school. He’s super sweet and super cute. We relate to each other on an emotional and personal level, and it’s not all about looks. We’ll talk almost every day but I don’t know if he likes me, and after my past relationships, I don’t want to waste my time. Do I keep moving forward and see if he likes me and see if we might be together or do I stop before I get in too deep? Help me! -Anonymous

Dear anonymous,
         The whole exciting and fun part about dating is risking things you might not usually risk. Throughout your dating life you are going to get hurt and waste your time but that’s just how dating works. You’ll have to kiss a few frogs until you find your prince. You two sound like you are building a great friendship; maybe that’s all you two will have, and there is nothing wrong with that. I would tell you to continue this great friendship you two are forming and if he wants something more, he’ll go for it. If you’re worried about wasting your time and you don’t want to try risking a little bit of time and courage, just continue to see him as a friend until something on his end changes and makes you see things differently. Remember, no one is forcing you to be in a relationship, so why rush it? Also, there is nothing wrong with just having a great guy friend. In the end, friendship or dating, it’ll all be worth it; no time would have been wasted. 

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