Second Girlfriend?


Dear Alexis,
            I really like this boy but he has a girlfriend. He’s been talking to me like I’m his girlfriend so it is super hard to not like him. How do I get him to be my boyfriend?
-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,
            It seems like what we have here is a cheater. If he’s flirting with you and treating you like his girlfriend while he’s already in a relationship, he’ll do the same thing to you. I think that instead of getting your mind set on how to make him yours, you should set your mind to how to make him stop. When people talk to other people outside of their relationship in a way that seems to be more than just good friends, they are seeking attention. Now, this doesn’t mean they aren’t getting attention from their partner, it just means that when they are apart from their partner they need someone else to fulfill the hole in which their partner usually fills. How do you fix it? You can’t change their mind or the way they act, but you can change the way YOU act. Don’t acknowledge the fact that he wants to talk to you as if you were his girlfriend. When he calls you pet names or references that you should spend time with him, you’ll instantly start obtaining more feelings. As much as you may like him already, your best bet is to let him go. There are many more single boys who would love to have a little bit of your time. Stop focusing on the one who is taken. In the long run, you’ll be glad you let him go. 

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