Why do people act differently?

Dear Alexis,
                Why are people so different around different groups of people?
-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

                When growing up you are learning the ways that people interact with each other and you experience these interactions your whole life. You learn how to respect the ones older than you, level with the kids younger than you, and be civil with the ones that you can’t stand to be around. We all experience a variety of people throughout our lifetimes and we learn how to juggle the different groups of people. Whether you’re in your teenage years, your early thirties, or late seventies, you’ll always be in contact tons of people who are completely different. You’re going to know the popular kids who have had everything handed to them since they were babies, the jocks who have and always will be obsessed with sports, the bookworms who love nothing more than reading, the neutral people who have always been able to blend and get along with everyone, and tons more. It is very important that you remember we all have one thing in common, we’re still people. Whether you despise someone or love someone you have to remember that we all feel; we think, breathe, laugh, cry, hate, and love.  We all want to be liked and we all want to feel like we belong, so we tend to like cats around the cat lovers, despise meat around the vegetarians, and hate television around the bookworms even though we go home to cuddle with our dog, eat a hamburger, and watch our favorite television show. This is life and it’s our way to adapt to the world we live in. Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying to fit in with different groups but fibbing your way through isn’t the way to do it. Find something in common with the groups instead of lying your way into the circle. Eventually all the lies will catch up to you and you’ll forget what you like! So, to answer your question, we act different around different groups of people because we like to have connections and we like to have friends. Variety surprises us and we like to change it up sometimes. Everyone and I repeat everyone has pretended to be something or someone they aren’t just to make friends. It’s part of life and the way you choose to handle the situation is all up to you.   

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